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Anonymous asked: why is it okay for a black person to call another black person a nigger but when a white person does it, it's racist?





why is it that when white people invaded North America and killed millions of Native Americans they were called “settlers” but when Black and Brown people cross the border they’re called “illegals”?

why is it that when white people kidnapped sold and enslaved millions Black people it was called a “trade”, but when Black and Brown people steal products it’s called “robbery”?




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The thing about patriarchy is that individual men, gay and straight, are often really wonderful people who you love deeply, but they have internalized some really poisonous shit. So every once in a while they say or do something that really shakes you because you’re no longer totally certain they see you as a human being, and you feel totally disempowered to explain that to them.
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Anonymous asked: Okay! 1 - why does it always take black men longer to commit than white men? The age for black men to get married is closer to 30 for white men it's 25.



2 - do you really think that some black women have standards too high? I see that argument on social media all of the time

3 - why is there such a divide between black men and black gay men?

4 : is dating/ courting never coming back in style?

1 Marriage has been on the decline for awhile now. so its not just a black thing. I somewhat take issue to this question because it add to the stereotype that black men are sexual deviants out in the streets and black women are unmarriable. But if you really think about it we are more a career based society now. We are in school a bit longer. some people have degrees and are still living with their parents because they are having a hard time finding work. I think it’s more of a financial issue.

2. No. Sugarfoot some arguments on social media aren’t worth internalizing. As far as personality the standards should be set high though.

3.  To be a black man you have to hyper masculine to prove your masculinity being gay or associated with anything homosexual is ant-masculine ( I don’t believe this) but it’s many a stigma attached to hanging out with homosexuals. I have gotten called a homosexual on here because my personality wasn’t conducive to that of a “normal straight black man”

4, It never went out its formats has changed.

Baby, with all due respect, I do think those numbers are correct about black men marrying about 3-4 years later than white men, though. 

And did you call her sugarfoot? Country.

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Once I was talking to this guy on OkCupid, and he told me how he didn’t understand why women on this site weren’t talking to him because he was nice and respectful. I told him that the world doesn’t owe nice guys anything, that people should be nice, and being anything other than nice is bullshit.

He never talked to me again. Oops. 

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